The actress and musician open up about their unexpected connection, heartfelt prayers, and how love brought down walls to build a home.
Who would’ve thought that behind the low-key charm of Una Rams and the bold sparkle of Ntando Rams lay one of Mzansi’s most unexpectedly adorable love stories? While the rumour mill has been spinning for months, the couple has finally let the world in—yes, they’re married! And their love beams through every laugh, long stares and playful banter they share.
Sitting down with them felt less like an interview and more like watching a love story unfold in real-time. Love has gently opened the most guarded parts of Una and broken down the walls Ntando had built around her heart. It has transformed them, pulling Una out of his shell and adding a gentler glow to Ntando’s fiery spirit.
Together, they’ve found home.
At the Royal Heritage Festival in Venda, he was immediately captivated. He knew he had to say something. Anything.
“She was with her sister, Lady Amar, and I had seen Amar on X, but I didn’t know her personally. I thought that was reason enough to go up and greet her. And for a man who writes love songs for a living, for the life of me I was at a loss for words,” he recalls, with Ntando giggling beside him.
In true Ntando style, she broke the ice: “Hey twin,” she said, noticing they were both dressed in blue, to defuse the clumsy greeting.
Before the night ended and everyone travelled back to their cosy nests, Una took the risk of asking for an official meet-up outside of that setting. But in that moment, Ntando thought nothing of it.
“I just thought, ‘oh nkosi yami, one of those celebrity guys’, and quickly brushed it off—as in, if it happens, it happens.” But it was Una’s humbleness that caught her attention, at first.
Una knew he needed a game plan to keep the conversation going. Instagram to the rescue.
“I wasn’t privy to who I was talking to. I wasn’t aware of all her achievements, which would have shrunk me down had I known all that information. So I followed her, and as soon as she followed back, I posted the pictures we had taken together as a conversation starter,” he said.
That marked the start of endless conversations.
“I love me a serious guy who knows what they want,” said Ntando, although she admits it took a while to warm up to the idea as she wasn’t in the mood for a talking stage with anyone.
“The first two hours of that first day of talking, I asked him insistently if he had a girlfriend,” she said, laughing. “At our second meetup, he made me feel so special, and it was in that moment that I knew this was going to be a special one,” she added, blushing.
Una explains, “It had come up in conversation that she really loves cakes and flowers. So, before my Ghana trip, in the quest of not wanting the connection and spark we had already established to fizzle out, we decided on a place to rendezvous and that was the garage. I had cake and flowers in hand, and she cried a little bit. I knew the mark I wanted to make had been made.”
And because Ntando insisted on being asked out, sticking to her belief that a man should know what he wants, “I was never going to fall into anything”, five weeks of speaking was when Una finally slipped in the girlfriend request during a game they were playing.
All this happened right when both Una and Ntando had given up on love, because it seemed like nothing real existed. Una even turned his desire for love into a prayer request, making Ntando his answered prayer.
“My prayer request had requirements of my special lady: a loving heart; I wanted the beauty that people get to see on the outside mirrored on the inside; a very kind soul and someone that has my best interests at heart. And those are some of the things I love about you, my love,” he said to an obviously melting Ntando, who just blurted out, “I wanna marry him again.”
And it is his kindness, thoughtfulness, intelligence, supportiveness and how loving he is that captured her heart.
“It took him to break down all the walls I had built up. I think I only hate how this love exposes the real Ntando,” she said, laughing. “Growing up, I was taught how I must be independent and because of that, I’ve never really allowed anyone to help me in any way. But now, I’m in my feminine state, where I just let myself be a woman fully, without having to think twice. Because I know there’s someone who actually has my back 100%,” with Una chiming in that Ntando has made him want to be a better man.
From proposal to marriage
From the start, their relationship had a sense of permanence. Five months in, Una sent the lobola letter. Proof of how serious things already were.
The proposal? Simple like their love.
The ndi a mufuna hitmaker asked Ntando to be the muse for his music video, only to surprise her with a proposal on set.
“I don’t think she heard a word I said. She was laughing, screaming ‘You guys, I hate you!’ at everyone while I was down on one knee,” Una recalled while laughing.
Ntando admits she cried because, deep down, she just knew Una was about to propose.
Their wedding theme was elegant, simple and timeless; reflecting the easy flow of their relationship.
When asked what love looks like now, Ntando grew emotional: “Love looks like my husband. It feels like something I always dreamt of. Now that it’s here, it’s unbelievable. It feels like home—warm, godly, magical.” She added that watching Una love her daughter, Sbahle, has been the reassurance she needed.
For Una, commitment means carving out time for each other, nurturing their bond, and making sure their love always feels just as it does now.
And one thing about Una is that his excitement radiates through his voice.
The couple hopes they grow old and wrinkled together, with Ntando adding that God must always be the centre of their love.
Una adds, “I want to see us amass wealth where we can create a safe and warm environment for our kids. Where they will not worry about anything. But more than that, I just want to love my wife to the best of my ability in real life.”
